You sit down at lunch and somebody joins you. Within about 10 seconds what are most people doing? Bitching! People love to bitch. Have you ever been to lunch and people are "one-upping" each other? "You think your morning was bad? I'll give you bad." I have seen people leave the lunch room basically going, "I won lunch!" We get off on suffering - not 9/11 or cancer suffering but the day to day grind. "You don't know my boss." "Oh my god it was a nightmare today."
What we love to say now is that we were "venting." "Oh, it's good to vent. If you don't get it out it just eats away at you." Well if you are going to a counselor then it is good to get it out and WORK ON IT! But most of the time when we vent we just get it out and then put it back in for tomorrow. We don't do squat with it of any use. Would you like it if somebody came up to your lunch table every day and threw up on it? I would imagine that wouldn't go over very well and when you saw the person coming you would say get away from here. And if they said that they always felt so much better when they threw up you would probably encourage them to go to another table. "Feel better over there." When people are bitching they are throwing up on each other. It's a gross description but we have to see it that way to start thinking about stopping it. "Venting" doesn't sound so bad. "Vomiting" doesn't sound so good.
But it takes courage to stop the bitching and whining. If you don't think so, next time you're at lunch and everybody is doing it, you be the one to say, "Hey come on. Let's not be negative today. Let's be positive." And watch your friends turn on you like sharks at a feeding frenzy. "Ohhh. Mother Theresa's alive." You know they'll go for your throat or at best think you're just nuts. Bitching is entrenched. Don't go there. Change the subject. Eat alone. Don't just follow. Here's a little song I wrote about it. See if it resonates.
Love your song! Oh, yes. I've been given the nuts title many a time. But, hey. Like I figure, nuts are pretty tasty. I take it as a compliment. Keep up the good posts, and let's hear some more music!!
Posted by: Tamera | February 27, 2008 at 09:14 AM